So my wife is this amazing person. She thinks the best of everyone, and is one of those people who you would truly like to have as a friend. She believes that all of her friends are beautiful, all of their children are cute geniuses, and all of their husbands are stand-up guys.
Now these rose colored glasses of my wife do have their up side. For example I ended up getting a pretty woman to marry me. Now I am definitely no Brad Pitt, but I am also not a circus freak, but if you would see the two of us together you would wonder what the hell she was thinking.
It is kind of like the movie Shallow Hal. (If you have not seen it, it is about a shallow guy who judges people by looks only, he ends up getting hypnotized and from then on can only see people for who they are on the inside. It's pretty funny, and at the end of the movie you get to see what the people really look like, which adds to the humor.)
So anyway the problem with my wife's rose colored glasses is, in real life, many of her acquaintances are not nice, smart, funny, cute, or honorable. Now my wife does not get hurt by any of this but I do. "How?" you ask. Well I will tell you.
1. I am the one who is forced to go to the local gathering where I am left to talk to the stand-up husband who is actually a boar, a drunk, a moron, or someone who I just have nothing in common with. (Ladies, just because you like someone, does not mean your boyfriend, husband, or significant other will enjoy your new friends family.)
2. I end up with children at my house who are actually the spawn of satan sent to torture me.
3. Inevitably I am forced to make small talk with the moms, every time I see them, who are more like Cybil on crack then Oprah.
So a few tips on how to handle your significant others rose colored glasses condition.
1. Don't talk about your significant others friends or acquaintances. It is ok to let the other person know how you feel, but then drop it. You will not do anything but make your partner feel bad about their choice, and you will get absolutely nothing out of voicing your opinion.
2. Have your partner make plans with their train wreck of a friend that do not include you. This is a good night to go out with your friends. Or better if you have children, tell your partner that you will watch the kids so that they can go out. This will accomplish a few things.
a. You will not have to go out with the bane of your existence.
b. You will look like a champ for offering to take care of the kids and let your partner go out for the evening.
c. This will let your partner know that you care about them no matter what kind of train wreck they pick as a friend.
3. Look in the mirror. You might actually be the pain in the ass friend, or you might be the owner of one.
By following these tips you can keep the peace at home, show your support for your partner, and if you really want you can each keep the friends that annoy your partner to no end.
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